Family Training Series

In the unpredictable world that we live in, many parents and close family members wish to empower their children to identify potential danger, act with confident independence to get to safety, and if the situation arises, parent and caregivers want their children to know how to physically protect themselves from harm.
Stay Safe Urban Defense offers a series of Family Training courses to teach children self-defense skills to protect themselves in unforeseen circumstances. The content in our family training course is adjusted by age and experience coupled with the harshness of whichever personal situation we are dealing with. When encountering dangerous situations more skills are needed than simple martial arts skills. In real life-threatening situations, the mind, body, and emotions must be developed simultaneously. When signing up for this class, parents must consider the mental-emotional maturity and physical development of their child to determine appropriateness. If the child is a survivor of molestation, incest, sexual battery, rape or other violence, parents should also consider the counsel of a psychologist before making the decision to enroll in this program.

Young women between the ages of 14 and 18 are at a high threat of being raped and targeted for abusive intimate relationships. Since women these ages have not yet developed the life experience of independently socializing and dating, the likelihood for predators to target them is increased. If these young women are assaulted, the assailants will not adjust their assaults to the age of their victims. Occasionally younger girls are horrifically victimized.

Self Defense for Girls

Based on the range of age within the group, we may then adjust material of the course to be better suited for younger teens. However, there are situations that vindicate admitting younger teens into the self-defense class for women due to maturity, personal situations, and early physical development. We have seen amazing results from younger teens who have taken the basic self-defense for women course.

It is requested that girls under 16 years of age have a mother, guardian, or other close female adult attend the self-defense training with them.

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Having an understanding of the situation in which girls/women may have been subjected to, will help them to better defend themselves. The intensity of fighting is adjusting accordingly based on the ability of each individual to ensure safety and a progressive development of skills.

The course addresses issues of:

• Violence
• Sexuality
• Relationships
• Emotions surrounding the subjects of rape, domestic violence & stalking

Students using their physical skills is not uncommon. The no nonsense fighting skills self-defense techniques that are taught are geared for real world street violence. Increased assertiveness and awareness skills help to carry over stronger boundaries and reduce the risk of sexual assault. Overall, one of the most significant benefits of the work we do is conflict avoidance. Verbal de-escalation and boundary setting skills are taught in younger teen courses. This will help them recognize danger more clearly and get to safety more quickly, especially if they haven’t been trained with fighting skills.

Developing their fighting experience then provides them with confidence to be proactive vs. waiting for a bad situation to become worse. If you have a group of ten, younger than age 16, we can hold a self-defense class modified to suit the maturity and ages of the group member. They can then later take a more advanced tactic class.

Girls under the age of 12 can learn to improve their awareness skills to help guard themselves against strategies used by child molesters and predators in a personal safety class. The class can be held at a convenient location if you have a group of 10-15 teens. Parents can also be taught the grooming techniques that are used to manipulate others in order to gain access to a child.

Starting as children, girls are sexually victimized more often than boys. Estimates project between 15% and 25% of boys are sexually abused by male and/or female perpetrators.

Understanding the dangers of abduction, molestation, and other forms of sexual exploitation will help give them the knowledge to prevent counter threats.

 Training Topics

Situational Awareness – Being aware of what’s going on around you. Have the ability to sense danger, challenges, and opportunities while remaining calm to conduct normal activities. This training covers the phases of alertness but goes offsite to parking lots and busy urban areas to observe and report back what we have seen to best develop strategies that can be used.

Sexual Assaults & Rape – Introduces the way sexual predators and rapists act and behave. Learn to identify these behaviors. You will learn the measures to be taken to not be identified as a target. This class will show the students defensive approaches to attacks starting from slow and observant to real and full force. Myths that surround rape, rapists, and sexual assaults will also be addressed.

Acquaintance & Date Rape – Learning personal safety in a variety of social settings (bars, pubs, clubs, etc). When in these settings rather than looking at only self-protection, this module will look at general safety issues including being out at night. We will look at detection, avoidance and prevention measures to be taken in order to avoid being a victim of acquaintance and date rape.

Car & Home Security – Looks at distinctive situations and covers preventative measures that can be taken around car and home security. This training also covers how to non physically deal with certain situations and scenarios. Situational factors that are demonstrated are to be translated across other scenarios and situations and not only be restricted to those explained.

De-Escalation – Not all predatory individuals have a plan to harm you. Aggression and violence can begin “spontaneously” from situational factors (spilling a drink on someone, taking their parking space, etc). These situations may arise in a moment and could be dealt with by verbal de-escalation and avoiding the need for a physical resolution.

Mind & Body Under Fear – When placed in potentially dangerous situations our fear kicks in and we become adrenalized. This training focuses on improving certain functions and abilities (e.g. pain tolerance) and may reduce others (e.g. losing our peripheral vision or “get tunnel vision”). We look at how to control the body’s natural response to fear and learn to work with it in order to maximize positive effects and improve survival chances.


Each training topic will include Physical Tactics to run from, avoid, or end the threat!